I've written previously about relationships between parent and child, but I'd like to re-clarify some of my thoughts again today because of some of what I've been recently experiencing in my life through friends and acquaintances alike. Currently, I'm 16- an age rooted in parental conflict and disrupt for people within my age demographic, so it seems. Personally, I have a stellar relationship with my dad that I discuss frequently on this blog and see no need to delve into again here. The bottom line is that he's one of my best friends and most trusted confidants for anything and everything.
To get to my point, I hear a lot of people walking around complaining about nonsensical and petty issues surrounding them and their parents. In previous posts, I've been quick to say that parent-child relationships are two way streets that need effort from both sides, and I've already touched on parents not having enough time (or enough care) to get to know their child, let alone properly guiding and raising their child(ren). Recently, I've been re-thinking these posts and wondering if I may have been a bit too rash and jaded in my opinions. While I do know quite a few parents who don't fit the bill when it comes to proper childcare, I also know a lot of people who are close to my age who would sooner run away from home than sit down at a table and talk to their parents. I don't understand the grudge that some people show their parents... particularly when they have caring parents who just want to help!!! Everyone has points in their life where they wish their parents would back down and leave them alone, and I understand that... but when I have to consistently hear about issues that border on the line of irrelevant with innocent parents put to blame, I can't help but wonder when those points begin to fade from sight. As someone who lost a parent at a young age, hearing people complain about petty issues really shuts me down. Sometimes, I wish that I had a mom to nag me about not making my bed, or folding my laundry, or washing my dishes... I wish I had a mom to tell me my makeup was a bit too heavy for my age, or that a certain outfit didn't look right on me. When these are the issues you choose to complain about, it's time to re-evaluate. Most of what our parents do for us, they do to guide us. Most parents (or at least, most good parents) want the best for their children- and that means better than they could ever do. In order to help their kids achieve this level of "better", your parents are going to teach you to do chores, and they'll expect to see some sort of output from you. Laundry is a necessary skill to have in life. So is knowing how to cook a proper meal (and clean dishes, for that matter). So is knowing how to keep a house tidy. So is knowing how to maintain personal hygiene. So is knowing how to dress appropriately... both for situations, and your body type. The list goes on, but those are some basic things that I hear many people my age complain about. I'm not saying that I've never grumbled about vacuuming or folding a load of laundry- but I certainly don't do it on a daily basis, and I DEFINITELY would never let anything so pathetically stupid impede on the strong relationship I have with my dad. At the end of the day, everything within your life is a reflection of a choice you made. If you want to see a different result, make a different choice... even if that choice means trying to help out around the house without being told 5 times first, even if that choice is accepting an apology you never received, even if that choice means that you need to stifle your pride, and accept your responsibilities. - Maddie
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