Don't tell me about having respect for those who are working when you don't show common decency to minimum wage workers... I know how to be respectful.
Don't tell me not to yell if you've been yelling for the past twenty minutes. Don't tell me to show you respect if you won't show me any yourself. Don't tell me I'm stupid, clueless, or anything of the sort and then expect me to instruct you in how to do things / fix everything for you. Don't tell me about how to keep my own space clean if your mess is cluttering places the entire family uses. Don't complain about me "harassing" you all day if you ask me to run errands for you and then proceed to harass everyone else yourself. Don't ask me for help and advice if you're only going to tell me that what I told you is wrong and not attempt it in the first place. I'm sorry if any of you take this post in the wrong way. I'm very, very tired of hypocritical people expecting everything to be done in a certain way by everyone around them and then refusing to follow through with it themselves. If I expect something from someone else, then I'll at least try to follow through with it myself. In a way, it's the principle my dad uses with this blog- my sister and I write on it; but to set a good example, he does too. That goes as far as respect. I think I've explained this before but I can honestly never say it enough. I will treat everyone with the same amount of respect until they give me a reason to show them more or less. I'll go as far as to say that I'll even give disrespectful people second and third chances by continuing to show them respect, even if they show none to me. I give chances to see if they'll reciprocate. Some people simply aren't used to being treated nicely and it reflects in their treatment of others. If, after those chances have been given, the person still chooses to be disrespectful? After that point I see no reason to show them any respect after I went out of my way to try and understand them. That's the bottom line and the end of this post, and topic. I really don't have anything more to say. This needs to stop. - Maddie
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"Yelling silences your message. Speak quietly, so that your children can hear your words instead of just your voice." I agree with the above quote whole-heartedly... because I've been in both situations with adults before. Yelling is an unfortunate common occurrence in my house; and while I'm just as guilty as the rest of my family is about it... I often think of ways that the yelling could possibly be tuned down a bit. I mean, it gets ridiculous! It's constant, it's unnecessary, and it happens for no reason. There's yelling going on as I write this post because my sister had the volume 2 notches too high on her iPad... and instead of calmly asking her to turn it down, she got yelled at to do it.
Was there any particular reason for the yell as opposed to the calm question? Honestly, I don't know. When it comes to pointless little things like that; I can't figure out why people choose to yell. I can somewhat understand yelling when arguing or when emotionally disturbed, but yelling for no reason just seems like a waste of time. I think some believe that the louder they are; the more valid their argument- and it's not the case. If anything; yelling takes away from your argument by making you seem foolish. The other day in the car, my dad got around to telling me two pieces of advice that he remembered his dad telling him and taking to heart- and that got me thinking about advice that HE has given me. And one of the most valuable pieces of advice that I think my dad has given me is that it's always better to approach things calmly and logically; and to avoid yelling in arguments for the same reason I stated above (looking foolish and sounding ignorant). So thank you, dad. I do try to follow that bit of advice (and the many other bits of advice that you've given me) as often as I can, when I remember. If the world could follow that advice, I think there would be far less problems. "Arguing with idiots is like playing chess with a pigeon- no matter how good you are, the bird is going to shit on the board and strut around like it won anyway." - Maddie |
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