So many people seem to walk around unhappy. They can never seem to find out why either! Each day, they walk around looking for ways to distract themselves from their unhappiness. Some watch TV, others drink. Some eat and some shop or travel or use the internet excessively. In sum, we are all guilty at one time or another of looking for distractions.
I find that the more I allow myself to be distracted, the more bored I get and the more unhappy I become. Sometimes it is hard to keep focused on the things that lead to happiness. I find that happiness, for the most part, takes effort. The more effort I exert towards my goals and aspirations, the happier I get! I know this and yet... Why do I and others spend so much time looking for distractions? For me, I use the internet as a distraction. Although all of my work is delivered over the internet, not all of my time on the internet is work related. I enjoy watching funny videos, playing video games, interacting with people and reading articles on multiple topics on the internet. Literally, over half of my day is spent on the internet either working or reading! Why? What am I trying to avoid? I already know that I am happier when I am working towards one of my many goals... I feel better after doing 100 push ups or after hitting the bag. I love to fish and/or go hiking with my daughters. I have all types of little projects set up in my mind to do. And yet, I struggle to set a time to do any of them. What is holding me back? I suspect that it is a deeply hidden fear or feeling of inadequacy that must be doing it. I don't know that for a fact, but I am thinking that that could be it considering that is what it is for many people. What would happen if I hit all my goals? Would I be happy? Somehow, I doubt it. Would I be happier than I am right now? Most likely I would be. So what is holding me back? I think it could be a lack of a specific plan. How do I get from here to there? The leap from point A to point B seems to be too far. So how do I get there? Mini goals! But to make mini goals I need to think. And thinking seems to be what the distractions are for. Don't think! Watch this funny video. A laugh will make the sadness go away...but it doesn't. Not really anyway. In the end, make a plan. Then take the steps in that plan and make a plan on how to achieve each step. Finally, work on those steps! So what am I working on today? Finish my work work first. Then go to karate class for Ashleigh and then a class for Maddie and myself. At some point, write down a plan for achieving my plans. That is my plan for today. With any luck, I can do all of that without distracting myself too much. With that said, I wonder if there is anything good waiting for me in my email... Distractions, the quickest way to remain unhappy.
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