Listen, it's late. Don't rip into me for the odd title; it was the best I could do... I honestly had no idea what a proper label for this post would be. I have a topic; but it's a topic that I find hard to define without directly quoting it. It's a common cliche (well, two, really) that I'm sure most people have heard before... and I'm going to be addressing it in full tonight because it has bothered me for a long time.
Growing up, I was told both of the following: "Treat others as you yourself would like to be treated" and "Treat others as they treat you" These statements always confused me, because they contradict each other in morality. I've thought long and hard about both... and these are my final thoughts. If you treat others as you wish to be treated; it'll likely result in you being walked all over. It's nice to be nice; but you need to know when your kindness is being abused. I am an extremely forgiving person; to the point that it is my fatal flaw. I allow myself to be walked all over and used simply because I believe that others must have the same good in them that I have in me... and it is seldom the case. I think that sensitive people get hurt the most in the world not because of their sensitive nature; but because they reject the idea and lack understanding of how some people can be so cruel without thinking twice about it. Not everyone is good, or forgiving, or understanding, or kind. And this is definitely something to keep in mind before "treating others as you would like to be treated". On the other hand, treating others as they treat you is all well and good until you meet someone having a bad day. I'll take a moment to cross-reference my dad's post from earlier today- he mentions how his first impressions of people are often incorrect, and states that people he may have taken as moody and unpleasant were actually quite nice people having a bad day. Treating others how they treat you takes a great deal of judgement... judgement that I feel those following this philosophy won't take much time to consider. I believe that the best policy in life is to give everyone a few chances until they do something unforgivable... or until they've proven themselves to be a negative person. Everyone has bad days; but no one should make every day a bad one and CERTAINLY not transplant their negativity onto you. If someone has a negative influence on you; cut them out of your life. Don't waste your time trying to forgive them... they will only continue on down the negative path that they've chosen for their life. At the same time, don't waste your time trying to treat them as they treat you. You'll only be dropping yourself to their level. Sometimes, negative people are unavoidable... but that doesn't mean that you have to take what they say to heart or let them have a full grasp on your life. "There are some people who always seem angry and continuously look for conflict. Walk away; the battle they are fighting isn't with you, it is with themselves." - Maddie
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