I am uncertain of whom to attribute the above quote to, so I'll leave it blank. Regardless of anonymity, I love this quote and I believe it to be very true. I've written before about my forgiving properties, and how they're often my downfall- however, I seldom talk about the benefits of being forgiving and I believe that a post about benefits to forgiveness has been long overdue after all the bitterness I've sprinkled around the topic.
The quote is right- life does become easier after forgiving someone, even if they don't realize it. Once you've forgiven someone, anything negative they say towards you can be shrugged off. People have many different definitions of forgiveness and what it means, but I believe that forgiveness is a core realization that we're all human, and we're all trying to figure the world out to the best of our ability. We're all at different points learning different lessons, and that's alright. That realization- paired with acceptance of mistakes- is what makes forgiveness, I believe. I've forgiven many people who've never said a word of apology to me. In fact, I tend to forgive people directly after our arguments take place. By the time they apologize (if they even do), most times I can shrug off our argument easily because I forgave it immediately so it wouldn't torment me. The times I have refused to forgive someone have always ended up giving me headaches, since I overthink everything. Overthinking in a negative state is never healthy for your mind. When I say all of this, I don't mean to follow the old mantra of "forgive and forget". In fact, I hate that saying with a passion. Forgive, almost indefinitely... but never forget how a person is or how they treated you. Though people can and do change, the way they treat you in their moments of weakness can tell a lot about them as a person. By forgetting what they did where only forgiveness is necessary, you're allowing yourself to be opened up for future attacks- and that is where forgiveness can be a downfall. In short: don't abuse your power, but don't let your power abuse you. - Maddie
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