"Someone will always be 'confusing' if they aren't giving you the answers you want to hear."
Something that I absolutely hate is when people ask for your opinion on a matter, and then automatically get upset if you don't agree with them. If you're asking for my opinion... I am going to give you my opinion. I'll try to be as nice as I can with it, but I won't just tell you what you want to hear. Too many times, my friends ask me my opinion about debatable matters and get frustrated when I tell them my honest feelings. My friends can be so stubborn and headstrong about being right that they don't take into consideration the fact that they ASKED for my opinion, and they make an argument of nothing. It's because of this that I have a hard time voicing my opinion to people. My mind has been trained by others that anything I say will be shut down and turned into a pointless argument; so I tend to stay quiet on topics of debate, even if I may have a lot to contribute. This fear holds true in friendships and relationships as well... not only am I afraid to voice my opinion about debatable matters, I am also afraid of mentioning any problems I may see within friendships/relationships. I feel as though I'm just over-reacting, or that what I see isn't that big of a deal... even though it may be. This is because in the past, things I've had problems with due to my own past have been made out to be irrational and over-dramatic. So I've learned to clam up. Recently, I'm happy to say that I've been more vocal. I've brought up problems as politely as I can and I've ended a few emotionally abusive friendships that I let sit about too long. It's been better, in the long run. If you're like me and have a hard time speaking up, my best advice to you is to just go for it. You have to give yourself the extra push and just do it- and if those around you try belittling issues that you have with their behavior based on lack of their own experience, they shouldn't be in your life to begin with. Fill your life with positivity and people who understand you and respect you, not negative nancys. - Maddie
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