"He who angers you conquers you." That's a quote by Elizabeth Kenny. She also said, "It's better to be a lion for a day, than a sheep all your life." I like that. This girl's got spunk! Kenny is credited with being the founder of physical therapy. Her story is rather interesting, If you have nothing to do, read about her on Wikipedia.
Kenny, to me, seemed indomitable. Both of the quotes above seem to bear that out as well. Sometimes, you need the spirit of the warrior just to survive. As a nurse during World War I, who traveled on "dark ships" I am certain that she had this. To get back to the quotes, oftentimes it is true that if someone angers you, they do in effect conquer you. At least for a little while. My daughter's battle with phony accounts on Instagram brings this to mind. It seems someone set up a phony account and made nasty comments to a number of people on Instagram. My daughter's reaction to the ordeal makes it clear that it really bothers her, and it has changed the nature of what she had been doing in her life. To that affect, she has been conquered by her anger. Instead of just blocking the fake account and then carry on happily with her friends as she usually does, instead she is trying to "prove" who the person is that made the fake account. To what end? What good will it serve to stir the pot in this instance? And does someone's snide comments now really matter? She has let it ruin her day, and it seems that others have let it ruin their day as well. In fact, this has been going on for three days. Her response, as well as her friends, almost guarantees that the behavior will continue. Not only does the person who set up the fake account now have an avenue to antagonize my daughter and her friends on a regular basis, but so does anyone else who has taken notice of the response... including people who are in the group that is responding. Fake accounts are so easy to set up and manipulate that any of them can set up a fake account and mimic the behavior of the current fake account holder. Not only that, but each response and "outburst" on group chat etc. gives people ammunition for future attacks. Why wouldn't people file away what they know bothers each of the people in the group. In the future, I hope my daughter does not allow others to conquer her through her anger. At our dojo, we practice peace over power. This philosophy is supposed to carry over into our personal lives as well, not just when we are training. There is no need for a group response to a fake account. Just move on and go about being happy. Report the account, block the account, maybe even respond with a short comment to what was said. But then move on. Life is too short to allow someone to conquer you with mere words.
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