"Mellow doesn't always make for a good story, but it makes for a good life." That's a quote by Anne Hathaway. Is she mellow? I don't really know. I never took her as such, but then again, the only film I remember seeing her in was Tim Burton's Alice In Wonderland. Still, I'll give her the benefit of the doubt and let her call herself mellow. In either case, I like her quote, and when I found it, I smiled when I saw it came from her since it was totally unexpected.
You see, I had googled "mellow quotes" and I was expecting quotes with a hint of hippy... you know like Janis Joplin, or maybe quotes from a member of the Byrds, Donovan, or the Grateful Dead. Instead, I got Anne Hathaway. I like the quote and I think I know where she is coming from though. She likely is mellow. As I have said before, perception is not always reality. I'll give you a good example from personal experience. I am an introvert and actually quite mellow. Even so, you will hardly find any of my friends who would tell you that I was either mellow or introverted! Many of my friends, particularly the ones that I have known the longest, think of me as a type "A" personality who is aggressive and extroverted. I guess part of the confusion is due to my actions. When I am out around people, I go out of my way to be sociable, because I don't want people to think I am weird. I saw too many movies growing up, where the shy kid was either picked on or thought strange. I never wanted to be thought strange, so I always make sure to keep up my end of a conversation. If there is no conversation, I go out of my way to start one. As for being aggressive, that part is actually true. I grew up playing sports, and I know that if you want to win, you need to both out-think your opponent and out play him. I always liked to win rather than lose, so I always played hard. Those lessons followed me into the business world, and into the dojo, so I guess you can say that I am a mellow guy who also happens to be aggressive. In the end, I see myself as mellow because I would rather sit down and relax than constantly be on the go. I believe in live and let live, and I would rather be peaceful than sarcastic. On occasion, I look at zoosk.com to see if there are any women in my area that I might like to get to know or date. Many times, the women say that they are sarcastic... as if that is a good thing. The moment I see that listed as one of their virtues, I know that they are likely not for me. While I don't mind a little playful sarcasm, I want to see it develop over time... not be told to expect it. We all have expectations about who our perfect match will be or won't be. For me, anyone who puts down that they are sarcastic, or really busy but will make time for the right person is not for me. When I was younger, sarcasm was a way of life. Now that I am older, I find that giving people the zing or digging for their weaknesses is not how I want to be. I don't want to feel I have to be on my guard, or watch what I do so that I don't get zinged. In that regard, I am very mellow. I like peaceful relationships between me and my friends. Life is just too short to always be on your guard. For now, I am content to sit at home and relax after work, or go to the dojo for a workout. I do not go out of my way to hurt anyone either physically or mentally. My dojo teaches peace over power, and I have tried to live that lifestyle. So am I mellow? You tell me. I think I am. But nowadays I have few people to really compare myself to in that regard. In the end, I believe that being mellow does lead to a very good life.
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