Today, I was at a bit of a loss trying to come up with something to write about. As I thought, I was scrolling through my tumblr and reading through some of my old posts. I found a questionnaire I had completed awhile back, and it got me thinking- how much do my blog readers know about me? I decided to take to Google to find a good list of questions, and I managed to find a long list of 40 questions on thoughtcatalog. I'll be using these questions as an outline for today's posts, and I encourage my dad to do the same. These will be broken into 2 parts- 20 in this half, 20 in a later half.
1. What’s your philosophy in life? My philosophy in life is to be kind and accepting of everyone, until they give you a reason not to be... and to respect everyone as your equal, unless they give you a reason to respect them more or less. 2. What’s the one thing you would like to change about yourself? Every day is a day of consistent improvement for me. I've been trying to learn to better control my emotion and to use more logic for roughly 3 years now. Aside from that, I'm happy with myself as a person. 3. Are you religious or spiritual? I was raised Catholic, but as I've gotten older I've found myself drifting towards spiritual agnosticism. I'm not quite sure what's out there, but I'm pretty sure it's nothing that most people expect. I do believe in God, but I believe in God as whatever created the world- be that science OR a higher power. I believe that being a good person is more important than being devout. 4. Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert? I'm an extroverted introvert. At my core, I value solitude and alone-time, but I can be social when I need to be and I do still appreciate time spent with my close friends. 5. Which parent are you closer to and why? I'm incredibly close with my dad, since he's essentially the one who's raised me my entire life. He's been there for me through everything our family has gone through and is one of the most understanding and supportive people that I know. I wouldn't be who I am today without him and all that he's taught me over the years. 6. What was the best phase in your life? I'd say the phase I'm in now- I'm discovering who I am and making steps to recover from being depressed. I'm becoming a more peaceful and happy person- which is who I strive to be at the end of the day. 7. What was the worst phase in your life? Probably the entirety of the 4 years leading up to my mom's death, and about a year and a half after the fact. Those were incredibly stressful and depressing times for me, and I collapsed underneath everything that was happening and ended up falling into a long spell of depression. Even so, I made it out strong and I'm a lot better today. 8. Is what you’re doing now what you always wanted to do growing up? I'm still in the process of growing up, but I'm taking the steps necessary to become a psychologist- which is what I wish to be when I finally "grow up". 9. What makes you feel accomplished? Any time I can make someone smile. 10. What’s your favorite book/movie of all time and why did it speak to you so much? 'The Swimmer', a short story by John Cheever. It's important to me because it was the first story that ever taught me to read between the lines and see the story as more than what it was... it taught me to recognize metaphors. Come to think of it, it was this story that inspired my love of metaphors! 11. What is a relationship deal breaker for you? Cheating, abuse, manipulation, and any type of addiction (such as drugs, alcohol, smoking or gambling). Lack of humor and not being able to hold a conversation are also deal-breakers. 12. Are you more into looks or brains? Definitely brains. Looks inevitably fade away over time... and while I guess the mind can as well, I'd rather love someone for who they are; not what they have. At the end of the day, I'd rather have a deep conversation with my partner than have a piece of eye candy. 13. Would you ever take back someone who cheated? Never. Once a cheater, always a cheater... no one needs that bull in their life. 14. How do you feel about sharing your password with your partner? While I wouldn't mind it if it was circumstantial, I wouldn't give my partner my password if they asked because in my opinion, that's a red flag for a controlling and potentially abusive relationship. 15. When do you think a person is ready for marriage? I don't think that's for me to be saying. I think everyone knows when they've found the person they truly wish to spend their life with... there is no set marker for when you're "ready". 16. What kind of parent do you think you will be? I'd like to think I'll be a parent a lot like my dad. In fact, if I can be half the parent he is, I'll be more than happy. I plan on homeschooling my children and teaching them the importance of logic, respect, self-defense, and kindness. 17. What would you do if your parents didn’t like your partner? I'd sit down and ask why. Sometimes, parents can catch things that you don't when your perspective is clouded with emotion... if my parent didn't like who I was dating, there'd have to be a pretty damn good reason and I'd rather know why than just get frustrated because I think I know best. 18. Who is that one person you can talk to about just anything? My dad. Hands down, no matter what, I can trust him with anything and everything and anytime I have a problem, he's one of the first people I go to for a solution. I'm happy to consider him one of my best friends.* 19. Do you usually stay friends with your exes? Yes, or I try to at least. In fact, one of my exes is one of my best friends today and has helped me through so many things... including issues that have arisen within past relationships. I see no need to burn bridges unless the person was a COMPLETE jackass to me. 20. Have you ever lost someone close to you? I lost my mom 4 years ago after her long battle with addiction and mental illness... I'd rather not go into detail on this here, please see my previous blog posts or any posts under the tags 'Memories', 'Addiction', or 'Alcoholism'. *disclaimer: because I refer to my dad as my best friend does NOT mean he isn't also a great parent. He knows when to discipline me, and more importantly, he knows how to. Being a good parents doesn't constitute screaming "Because I said so" at your child, it means that you have to talk things through with them and treat them with as much respect as you yourself expect. THAT is what makes a good parent. If you don't have anything nice to say, then do everyone a favor and keep it to yourself :)
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