"Be as you wish to seem." That's another one from my man Socrates. It's simple really, yet so many people screw this one up. I think it is because so many people really have no idea about who they really want to be.
Sure, they will say "I want to be a nice person!" or "I want to be respected." Or even "I want to be happy!" The problem is that they don't know what those words mean. Not really anyway. They may have a vague notion that to be happy means not to be sad... to be nice means not to be bad. And while those are close, they really don't know how to achieve it. The above quote really gives people a starting point. It's a starting point because it makes people think about the next step. Well, I want people to think that I am happy. Well, okay, then I need to be happy. How do I achieve that? If they stop and think about that point, they will be closer to achieving their goal. This isn't a one-step process either! Most people want to be many things. I want to be good at karate. I want to be happy. I want to be good at what I do. I want to read. When people look at me I want to seem happy, competent and hard working! I want to seem intelligent and nice. To be all those things, I actually need to know what they mean... or, at least what they mean to me. Once I know what they mean and what it will entail for me to "be" that, then I need to develop habits that will lead to me being that way. For example, to get good at karate, I actually need to practice. If I don't practice, I will not get better at my craft. At the dojo, I can tell who practices and who doesn't by the improvements they make in their forms. Those who practice, get a little better each week. Those who don't practice, oftentimes need to be taught the same parts of the forms over and over again. Eventually, they might get it. But it takes them a lot longer that way than if they just reviewed it a bit on their own. To seem "happy" is a bit harder. I think most people really need to actually be happy to seem it. For me, it's the little things that make me happy. I have found it is best to focus on the little things since they occur much more frequently that the "BIG" things that only occur every so often. Why wait for a vacation to be happy? Why not find something that can make you happy daily? For me, I like to take little drives around my area and look at the mountain views and the lakes. I like to practice my karate, read, and make my daughters laugh. I like to drink copious amounts of coffee! Those things make me happy, and I experience them nearly every day. Of course, I have other things that make me happy too. Things that I can't do every day, but that I can do a couple of times a month if I am lucky. I like to take my daughters hiking... or fishing. I like to take them to the movies too. When I can do these things with them, I find it adds to my happiness. In the end, by being what I wish to seem, I become exactly what I wish to seem. It is simple. But to get to that point, you first need to define for yourself what you wish to seem and be.
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