There are three "C"s in happiness. No, not when you spell it...I mean when you achieve it! The three "C"s are special. They are special because while everyone has an infinite number of the first "C", they walk around and complain that they have none. Meanwhile, there is usually a second "C" for almost anything realistic, yet most people walk around as if there is absolutely no "C" for almost anything that they really want. Finally, while everyone wants the third "C", most people only accept it when it is forced on them.
So what are the three "C"s? Choice, Chance, and Change. Let me explain, and show you how the three "C"s work together to get you almost anything you want or need. I will keep my example simple, although the idea works for more complicated situations as well. The really simple formula for getting what you want is that: You need to make a CHOICE to take a CHANCE or your life will never CHANGE. It's simple really and so true. Your choices could be stopping you from living the life that you desire. When you consciously choose not to take a chance, you are limiting your life to change that is random. The only constant in life is change. You can choose some of the changes that occur in your life, and hopefully help to make your life better. Or you can choose to have the changes in your life be random...in other words, by chance. I don't know about you, but I'd rather choose to take a chance on a good outcome. Think about it. When you choose, you are going to choose something that will ultimately benefit you. Therefore, the odds of something good happening are higher. If you choose not to choose, then randomness takes over. With randomness you have a 50/50 chance that whatever happens is going to be good. I don't know about you, but I like better odds than that. Here is an example of how choosing to take a chance worked out in my life. I wrote about this in the past, but I can't stress enough how my decision to choose to take a chance, made a major change in my life. Of course, I am talking about how I started dating my wife. That night, four of us set out to walk on the beach, two guys and two girls. None of us were paired up at the time, but I had a feeling the other girl with us liked me. This was a problem, because I liked Sharon. If I did nothing, there was a chance that the other girl might of grabbed my hand or the other guy Sharon's. Neither outcome would have been to my liking. Meanwhile, if I grabbed Sharon's hand, she would either accept that I had feelings for her and walked with me, or she would have pulled her hand away and I would have been no worse off than I would have been otherwise. That was the situation that was in front of my choice, but there was more to it than that. There is the head games that we all have at one time or another. That little voice in your head that says DON'T DO IT!!!!! Yeah, I had THAT big time. "Don't do it!" my head screamed. "She is so beautiful and you are only ordinary at best. You are ten years older than her...her husband died only a few months ago." All of these thoughts were surging through my head. And yet, we were having fun at the party. The other girl was even younger than Sharon and she seemed to like me. It was a beautiful night, and the other girl was under age and couldn't get into the bar we were at anyway. Although all of my insecurities were screaming not to do it, I decided to do it anyway. I decided to take the path less traveled, and like in Robert Frost's poem, it made all the difference! Make a choice, people. Right now, choose to take a calculated chance the next time it is presented to you. The change it makes may just put you on the road to happiness. Make a choice to take a chance, and see if the change it brings about will take you a step closer to happiness. It did for me once so long ago. And it will again in the future...when I choose to take a chance for a change.
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