"Life is only a reflection of what we allow ourselves to see." I think this is a beautiful quote because of its truth and simplicity. Ever wonder why some people always seem happy, while others are borderline miserable? I honestly believe it is because of what we choose to focus on.
My daughter Ashleigh is a great example of this. Three times this week I have heard her say "This is the best day of my life!" And each time, it was on a different day. Was she exaggerating and just repeating something she had seen on a video? To some extent yes, but at each time she was expressing happiness about something that was going on around her. When you focus on the positive, you have a tendency to see the positive. Positive things don't have to be something large, there are plenty of tiny things going on around us that have the ability to make us happy. Watching a video with Maddie, playing Wizard 101 with Ashleigh, or sharing a cup of coffee with my mother all bring little breaths of fresh air to me. A hard work out, a joke among friends or even a moment alone are all things that I enjoy and that bring me momentary happiness. Too often, we allow other people's problems become our problems. Too often we feel we have to save the world for our friends. What we really need to do is step back and save ourselves. The best way we can do that is to have a kind word for those around us. Listen to others, but don't take on their burdens. Offer a kind word, a smile, a hug. Point out the little joys to them. Celebrate their positives and play down their negatives. Surround yourself with positive people...people who are trying to do good. Avoid those who bring you down. Also, have the wisdom to know the difference. Some people WILL get on your nerves sometimes. You need to be able to look past that and instead look at whether or not that person truly has your best interests in mind when they do get on your nerves. Overall, you are the sum of the twenty people you hang around with the most.If three of those people are happy, and the rest dissatisfied and unhappy, then it is likely you will be unhappy too. There are plenty of happy people out there. Find those people and surround yourself with them. Look for the good, point it out to at least two people you know. Do this over and over, and in time, you too will find happiness.
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