I feel, sometimes, like I am extremely powerless in the huge world around me. In fact, I know I am... But often times I get ahead of myself and feel like I have more power than I do in reality. Sometimes it takes a smack in the face to wake me up to the fact that I'm actually quite powerless to everyone but myself- regardless of what I think.
The other day, one of my best friends was extremely depressed. I talked to her, and tried to help her through it. With her, this usually works... But it didn't seem to be helping today. This woke me up to the fact that I can't ALWAYS help. I can't ALWAYS make things better... And sometimes trying can make things worse. While I gave up on trying to help her, I didn't abandon her- I let her rant to me and talk everything through. In the end, I think that's what everyone needs. Someone they can talk to, relate to, understand and listen to as well. An equal exchange friendship. One where one is never more than the other; where both can be relaxed and calm and vent if need be and talk things through. I know that when I get depressed, I usually want to talk to someone... But most don't understand, so I don't bother. Some like to believe that because they are older, they have power over others. While this might hold true throughout childhood; it doesn't in the real world. Sometimes I question why parents feel the need to control children and their dreams, and not just guide them and help them through life. I have a friend who's parents are near forcing her into the military... Even though she doesn't want to join. She doesn't plan on joining, but the pressure and lack of support of her dreams from her parents makes things quite hard. At 18, she'll be able to make her own decision... But until then she is facing a military life. In the real world, you have to make your own choices and rely on yourself. You don't have people telling you what to do and how to do it (set aside a job). You have to go based on what you've been taught. I think that parents should guide and teach their children... Not control them, squash their dreams and hold them back. That's not parenting... Not at all. In the end, we are all powerless to everyone but ourselves. We can't force people to change, or to be something they are not... Unless they are open to change. ~Maddie
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