"Sometimes problems don't require a solution to solve them; instead, they require the maturity to outgrow them."
This quote is very relevant to me, currently. As mentioned in a previous post, I've been having some trouble within my friend group recently... troubles revolving around a specific person and their aptitude for getting involved with all the wrong people and all the wrong drama. This person dragged down not just me, but my entire group of friends by repetitively offending us and then trying to play the victim to their own shitshow. This person was a problem in and of themselves... and for a good 6 months, they plagued my life as I tried to find a way to "solve" them. I tried everything. I tried multiple long talks with this person to try and see things from their side, to see if I was indeed the problem. This failed, as the person was more interested in drowning me out, ignoring me, and brushing off everything with a joke. I tried apologizing profusely for hurting this person, in case I had done something un-knowingly... they reassured me in the moment that I was not the problem, but would consistently label me as such in future arguments. Nothing worked. Finally, things hit an all-time low about a week ago and I decided I'd had enough of the drama, enough of the arguing, and enough of my time being wasted by someone who was so immature that they couldn't see over their own ego that they were hurting the people who cared about them. I gave up on looking for a solution that wasn't there, and cut the person out of my life entirely. I told them we needed space, that they needed to mature before we could speak again... and I left it at that. This past week has been the most peaceful I've had in a long while.
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