The meaning of life is what you make it. That is not a quote by the way. That's just a thought I had. Many people spend their lives chasing the next buzz. In my teens and twenties, I did that too. Work or go to school during the week, and then try to figure out where I was going to party on the weekend. So was that the meaning of life? Not by a long shot! That was just a bunch of guys (and girls) with nothing better to do wanting to get drunk and doing it somewhere other than their own living room. That way we could call it socializing rather than alcoholism.
I sometimes get the feeling that people are so unhappy with the state of their lives that they need to do something constantly. Where can I go, so I can be anywhere but here? What can I do, so that I am not just alone with my thoughts? Why is everybody so unhappy? My answer to this is that people do not know the meaning of their lives any more. I think it's because no one ever talks about the meaning of life when they are younger. No one ever stops and says to them "Why are we here? What are we supposed to do?" They think "There must be more to life than doing what we are told to do!" And they are right. So they try to live life as they please, without someone telling them what to do! So they drink and go to things that they normally wouldn't, so they can be happy like those people in the commercials. So they go to sporting events and yell and scream and show their support and loyalty...for a team made up of individual millionaires who play for the highest bidder. I personally find it hard to show loyalty to a team, when the players have little loyalty to the team. Pro sports is a business. Men are hired to play for the team. I feel silly rooting for these people. To me, it seems like going to Dunkin Donuts and rooting for the girl making your coffee. "Go Charlene! Stir that milk! Latte, Latte, Latte...Yeah!!!" Is that a little extreme? Or is that what people are actually doing rooting for a professional sports team? But I digress. What I am trying to point out is that even when people think they are doing what they want to do, they are still doing what someone else wants them to do. About 99% of the time anyway. Let me ask you...Why do people want new cars? If their old one isn't working well and is not worth fixing, I can understand. But too many people just want a new car to be in style, or because their neighbor has a new one or to look successful. A car is a tool, people. It has nothing to do with your self worth (Unless you make it so). It is designed to get you from between point A and point B. Do you buy a new hammer every year because a new model comes out? No? Then why buy a new car? It's the marketing people. It is designed to work against you. They market things to make you want to buy them. There is no meaning in possessions...there is no meaning in professional sports, there is no meaning in the clothes you wear or the silly tattoo you put on your arm. The only meaning is that that you allow those things to have. I think many people are unhappy today because they realize these things have no meaning. They continue to buy into the idea that they do, so they find it hard to understand why they are unhappy. I have the new car, why am I still down? (Because you now have a car payment?) Iam getting drunk with my friends? Why am I still unhappy (even worse, now I am hungover too!)? The reason is is that you are looking for meaning and happiness in all the wrong places. Love is the meaning of life and its happiness...not things. Hold the hand of your loved one, look them in the eyes. Hug your children...teach them new things. Share a cool breeze on a warm day...or a hot fire on a cold day. Life existed before brands. Only the shallow care what brand of pants your wearing or what type of car that you drive. Most people prefer not to see you drunk. In the end, it comes down to finding that special someone that you can share a tender moment with... and then sharing that love with your children. In the end, 99% of the stuff that you buy will be thrown away when you die. I know this from experience. Material things that are important to you, likely won't be important to the people who survive you. THEY WILL GET RID OF IT!!!! When I die, the only thing I really want to leave my daughters are memories. Memories that I hope they will cherish. To help those memories along, about half of my safe is filled with pictures that the two of them have given me over the years. I like to look at them when I go into my safe. I hope they bring back memories for them as well. This post has rambled a bit, so let me sum it up: If you are looking for happiness in the clothes you wear, the car you drive or the size of your house, then you are destined to be disappointed. If you instead look for happiness in your relationships, then I think you will have a better chance of finding it. Don't settle for anyone, either. Make sure that they are the person that touches your heart. The meaning of life is love.
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