“We can't be afraid of change. You may feel very secure in the pond that you are in, but if you never venture out of it, you will never know that there is such a thing as an ocean, a sea. Holding onto something that is good for you now, may be the very reason why you don't have something better.”
The above quote was found in my search through Tumblr earlier this morning, and I thought I'd touch lightly upon it. So often in life, you hear people say that they are comfortable where they are- or that they're perfectly happy with their life. Even after saying this, however, you can tell that they're discontent- unhappy with something in their life. On occasion, these same people will complain mildly before resuming their plight of "being content". I feel like some people get stuck- afraid of not being able to find something better, they remain in a toxic position simply because they're slightly comfortable there. I have a friend who is in her late teens, almost an adult now. She has been in a year-long long-distance relationship that has been toxic and mentally abusive to her- yet she chooses to stay. Knowing her past, she has been through many horrible relationships before that seem far worse than the one she finds herself in now. In my opinion, she's only remaining in this relationship because she thinks it's the end of the road... she thinks she has no other option left, and she's afraid that if she leaves her current situation, she won't be able to find better. She's staying out of fear, and because "well, at least it's not as bad as before". It is this way of thinking that slows change and progress in life. I'll use a quote from one of my dad's old posts... "unless you know you are dying tomorrow, a loss of potential is devastating". Sometimes, I think people don't fear a loss of potential, but fear the potential in and of itself. If all you've known is the shit end of the stick all your life, then it can be hard to see hope in the future... if I could give one piece of advice (and this will sound weird coming from a 15 year old), it would be to not settle for less. Know yourself, and know what you deserve.... and do not settle for less. Not in relationships, not in jobs, not in life as a whole. - Maddie
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